In the book, 25 ways to win with people, author John says :

  • Forget about:Searching for ways to make yourself look good.Instead, search for ways to make others look good.

  • Ask:What positive, encouraging thing can I say to eachperson I will see today?

  • Do it:Give everyone you meet the Triple-A Treatment—attention, affirmation, and appreciation.

  • Remember:Within the first thirty seconds of a conversation,say something encouraging.

Link: 25 Ways to Win with People